Archive for the ‘musings’ Category

I’ve been watching the unfolding drama around Sinead O’Connor’s recent venture into the world of online dating with interest. It started out harmlessly enough… a column in the Independent about how she missed male company (and sex!) and was inviting emails from potential suitors in order to possibly meet someone. Quite sweet and charming, it […]



Ever-helpful WordPress has started to give prompts to help you blog. Today’s topic: What do you worry about? Oh WordPress, how little you know me. What do I worry about? What DON’T I worry about. I am a chronic worrier. You name it, I’ve worried about it. If I haven’t worried about it before, I’ll […]

Six months on anti-depressants will really fuck over your sex life. Not only did my libido disappear, but the boy was taking care of me a lot. Lots of minding and gentleness and patience. You can imagine that didn’t leave much room for hot and dirty D/s sexytimes. Since I came off the meds, I’ve […]

Question for my lovely readers: how did you figure out what you wanted to be when you grew up? I find myself, yet again, in a gloomy puddle about my career. I don’t know what I want to DO with my life. I’m not really sure I ever did. I had some vague notions in […]

*dances* So after a year and a bit of dating, myself and the boy moved in together. It was something he mentioned to me about six months in, actually… and so while everyone else squeed and fluttered around us with glee, we took it all in our stride. We’d been planning on it for a […]

One of the symptoms of depression generally is a lack of interest in sex. That shouldn’t really come as a surprise to anyone, as it’s difficult to imagine taking joy in anything when one is suffering under the weight of the world. It’s a symptom that didn’t affect me this time, however. Rather than push […]



It’s something I don’t have a lot of, resolve. My willpower is widely known to be non-existent, and my motivation *just about* extends to getting myself out of bed every morning. Well, most mornings. I’m a very laid-back person — take each day as I find it, always put off until tomorrow what should really […]